1 Peter
3:8 CEV Finally, all of you should agree
and have concern and love for each other. You should also be kind and humble.
It's hard
to get organized if the others who live in your home don't want to cooperate.
Why don't they have the same vision for organizing as you do? Here are some
possible reasons:
They
don't have the same energy/personality as you do. Perhaps you are a fast paced
person married to a slower paced person. You may attack a project very
differently than they would.
They are
afraid they won't measure up to your standards. Do you set the bar way to high
in your home?
They get
nervous if things are too organized. Believe it or not, ultra organization can
lead to stress and a feeling of a rigid environment. I remember having a friend
in high school who liked to come to our reasonably clean home to relax because
at her home, there was a very strict level of cleaning. If you are always
quickly cleaning up after people, (i.e. taking their soda glass to the kitchen
before they even finish with it) you may create resistance to helping.
It's
never good enough. Have their past efforts to help clean or organized been met
with an "Oh, just let me do it" attitude from you? Have they been
affirmed or criticized for their efforts?
These are
just a few reasons why family members or roommates may not cooperate with your
efforts to get organized. So, take a look at what Peter tells us above. It's
more about how we treat others than having our own way. Are there some changes
you can make in how you relate with those you live with?
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